|Couples Who Play Together, Stay Together|
May 08, 2008
A conversation with a divorced friend about the lack of sex during the final years of the marriage just reinforced my opinion that sex really is extremely important in a relationship. Don’t get me wrong; love is number one, but without sex, let’s face it; you may as well be siblings!!
It’s a common complaint that after several years together; the sex just isn’t what it used to be and sadly, too many people are willing to just lie back and accept this sad state of affairs as opposed to doing anything about it. I’m a firm believer that sex never needs to get stale between two people and that there are all kinds of things that you can do to keep things from flat lining. I took it upon myself to peruse some of the goodies that can help you keep from ever being the stereotypical couple that just doesn’t seem to do it anymore.
An open mind and a positive attitude are just a given, but in terms of props, I think the best options by far for perkin’ things up are games. All work and no play does make Jack a dull boy after all! Games offer you the opportunity to be a little playful in an otherwise serious world. Sex games also encourage communication and offers new naughty things to try that you may not have thought of otherwise.
One of the quickest and easiest things that you can do to stir things up a tad is to break out of the missionary or lazy-sex-on-your-side positions that tend to be the only ones making appearances after a few years together. An inexpensive deck of cards like 52 Sex Positions is a great and easy way to go. With 52 positions, you could have a new one every week for a year or have exciting couple of months ahead of you! Another one of my inexpensive faves are the good ol’ Erotic Dice which encourages you to reach out and touch someone, a few different ways, all with the rolling of the dice. (Check out Oral Sex Dice and Anal Sex Dice too!)
Another sure fire way to inject some heat into a relationship is to communicate your sexual desires. Sharing fantasies is something that many couples find difficult to do, so when you have a tool like a game that encourages you to share and explore your fantasies; you can’t go wrong! For that we’ve got: Exploring Ultimate Fantasies Game and Canoodling which is geared at opening the lines of communication in the bedroom.
I don’t want to bombard you with too many games as your “To Do” list must be getting pretty full, but another key factor that is missing in many relationships that don’t work is the ability to laugh together. There’s nothing like a naughty version of Twister to get you rolling about and laughing as you try to maneuver your bodies into unnatural positions! I personally like Hands On Body Twister and Between The Sheets.
I’m feeling inspired! Think I may have to make it a game night! *wink*