|Sex Toys and Fantasies: A Mind-Blowing Combination|
October 27, 2007
Fantasies are a great sexual tool—one that goes hand in hand with toys. When you fantasize, your mind becomes your own personal playground for you to do as you wish including all of those deliciously naughty things that you wouldn’t dare try in your “real life”. Fantasizing is as beneficial as it is fun because it allows you to get in touch with your sexual self, encourages some self-lovin’ which is one of the best ways to learn what you enjoy in bed so that you can teach your lover AND it also relives stress. Doesn’t get better than that! Or does it??
When we lay back and let our minds drift to visions of a naked Colin Farrell or being taken and ravaged by a group of Johnny Depp-esque pirates; our unspoken goals are to make the visual as vivid as possible and hopefully finish off with an orgasm. While I can’t fully guarantee you an orgasm without some diligence on your part, I can teach you how to not just really visualize your sex fantasies but also to make them feel more real—the emphasis being on the word “feel”. This is where sex toys come in…
When you are enjoying a sexual fantasy, you are trying to imagine the way it would feel to have the object of your desire running his hands along your body or teasing your thighs with his tongue and ultimately maybe even sliding inside of you. By using a toy in unison with your thoughts, you are able to make your fantasies come to life or at least make them 3D! You can do this simply by taking any vibrator (finger vibes are a fave!) and using to help you feel what you see. Does your fantasy start off with him caressing your breasts? Turn your vibe on low and trail it lightly along your breasts, following his/her hands so to speak. Does your fantasy partner graze the skin of your tummy as they make their way down and then linger along your inner thighs? Glide your vibe down along that same path as you visualize and feel their touch. Take this as far as penetration if you wish, be4cause after all, this is your fantasy in which you can do as your naughty little heart desires!
One final tip for upping the ante and making your fantasy time as hot as can be: try different positions. The usual lying on your back may be comfortable and a great way to relax and get started, but switching it up can be extremely erotic—especially if you are keeping in unison with the moves in your fantasy. Try lying on your stomach and teasing yourself that way. Imagine him entering you from behind as you slide your toy into you while on all fours. Mmm… endless possibilities…
When it comes to fantasies, the only limitations are those you place on yourself. Relax, let go of your inhibitions and enjoy the beautiful harmony of mind, body and yes, toys.
By our featured writer: Adrie Santos