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“Two heads are better than one” is a saying that can easily translate into sex and the world of sex toys. I’m not just talking about double-ended dildos or using two vibrators at once, but rather quantity in general. While I do believe in the old saying “quality over quantity” when it comes to some things; I tend to be a big fan of quality and believer that sometimes you are lucky enough to find both. This came to me after perusing the site on this quiet Sunday afternoon and noticing the amount of ‘kits’ that we carry. I love kits!! It’s like Christmas when you order a kit and get to open a box containing several goodies in one shot!

Kits can be great for anyone who is a little unsure of what exactly what they want or in some cases need. For example, for a couple looking to try out some mild bondage for the first time; a kit like the Beginner’s Bondage Fantasy Kit comes with all the things a newbie needs and takes the guesswork out of the experience. And speaking of guesswork; kits can be a no-brainer way for a guy who is not-quite-so-romantic, to impress his partner and treat her to a night of romance without the aggravation that could well ruin the experience. My personal faves for romantic couple play are: Bed of Roses Deluxe Edition, Basket of Love (so cheap!) and Kama Sutra Weekender Kit (I am all about anything Kama Sutra!).

It’s not just the romantic nights you plan that are easier with kits; a night o’ naughty pleasure is easily arranged with a kit no matter what your fancy! I absolutely loooooove kits containing a load of little vibes or sleeves because they allow you to sample a few different toys which is not only great for mixing things up and keeping them from getting boring during your night/weekend sex-fest, but they help you and your partner try stuff out and really help you get in touch with what turns you on. I’m diggin’: 4 Piece Clit Stimulator, Bedside Orgy Kit and Colossal Kit (this thing is AWESOME!).

Finally, one of the kits that really blew me away and made me wish I had searched the word ‘kit’ back when I was a maid of honor; the Bachelorette Party Box. This baby comes with everything but the stripper! If you’re not sure of what you need to put together a bachelorette party or simply don’t want the hassle of running from place to place to find just the right supplies; this kit really does cover it all which would make you look like the best stagette party hostess ever!

Now, I’m off to shop for a kit for my upcoming weekend away…

A conversation with a divorced friend about the lack of sex during the final years of the marriage just reinforced my opinion that sex really is extremely important in a relationship. Don’t get me wrong; love is number one, but without sex, let’s face it; you may as well be siblings!!

It’s a common complaint that after several years together; the sex just isn’t what it used to be and sadly, too many people are willing to just lie back and accept this sad state of affairs as opposed to doing anything about it. I’m a firm believer that sex never needs to get stale between two people and that there are all kinds of things that you can do to keep things from flat lining. I took it upon myself to peruse some of the goodies that can help you keep from ever being the stereotypical couple that just doesn’t seem to do it anymore.

An open mind and a positive attitude are just a given, but in terms of props, I think the best options by far for perkin’ things up are games. All work and no play does make Jack a dull boy after all! Games offer you the opportunity to be a little playful in an otherwise serious world. Sex games also encourage communication and offers new naughty things to try that you may not have thought of otherwise.

One of the quickest and easiest things that you can do to stir things up a tad is to break out of the missionary or lazy-sex-on-your-side positions that tend to be the only ones making appearances after a few years together. An inexpensive deck of cards like 52 Sex Positions is a great and easy way to go. With 52 positions, you could have a new one every week for a year or have exciting couple of months ahead of you! Another one of my inexpensive faves are the good ol’ Erotic Dice which encourages you to reach out and touch someone, a few different ways, all with the rolling of the dice. (Check out Oral Sex Dice and Anal Sex Dice too!)

Another sure fire way to inject some heat into a relationship is to communicate your sexual desires. Sharing fantasies is something that many couples find difficult to do, so when you have a tool like a game that encourages you to share and explore your fantasies; you can’t go wrong! For that we’ve got: Exploring Ultimate Fantasies Game and Canoodling which is geared at opening the lines of communication in the bedroom.

I don’t want to bombard you with too many games as your “To Do” list must be getting pretty full, but another key factor that is missing in many relationships that don’t work is the ability to laugh together. There’s nothing like a naughty version of Twister to get you rolling about and laughing as you try to maneuver your bodies into unnatural positions! I personally like Hands On Body Twister and Between The Sheets.

I’m feeling inspired! Think I may have to make it a game night! *wink*

I have decided that teasing has become sort of a lost art. Life is just so rushed in general that many people even have to hurry sex or worse yet; schedule it in like some chore on a To-Do list! When you’re working against time, it’s very easy to get straight to it and forget about all the good stuff that leads up to the final act, like the tease… the sweet, delicious tease.

Whether you’ve got all the time in the world to please your partner or your time is limited; building up a little anticipation and teasing them to the point of submission is a sweet must! Come on; you don’t always have to make it about the intercourse—not right away anyhow. Taking the time to really work your partner’s body into a frenzy will not only feel amazing for them but also heighten pleasure for you. Watching the goose bumps form along his body as he becomes harder and harder or the absolute delight of watching her nipples turn to stiff little buds as she writhes around in torturous pleasure at your mercy is bound to work some magic on you as well. How can you illicit such intense sensations you ask? Simple; with a few minutes a prop or two!

One of my favorite ways to tease a mate starts of with a blindfold. There is nothing like blindfolding someone to automatically heighten all of their other senses; leaving them to rely on sound, sight and feel to know what’s going on. I’m not at all into BDSM but I do also enjoy tying my partner’s hands so he is at my mercy. A little game of “how much can you handle” is what ensues once things are tied nicely in place. This is a fun game for all! The deal is that you get to do as you wish to your partner but they are not allowed to touch you as you do it. Running a feather strip down the center of his/her body is a nice start. Take the time to linger ever so softly over their most special spots to really drive them wild! Changing sensations by switching from feathers to a tickler or small rubber whip, effortlessly ups the level of eroticism. I’m not saying you need to whip your mate senseless and induce pain—unless you are so inclined, but the feel of the rubber strips along already tingly skin will feel amazing on anyone no matter how adventurous or vanilla their tastes may be!

Taking the time to tantalize your lover will be an erotic and highly pleasurable experience for you both and therefore worth a little time and effort. Luckily, kits like the Barely Bonds Kit, Vanilla Bondage and The Bernan Mistress Kit , make it easy to add a little tease to your sex life because they contain all you need from the blindfold to the feathers! We’ve also got quite the selection of ticklers ( I loooove the Vibrating Feather Tickler!) and whips to choose from whether you’re looking for a gentle caress or the lingering sting of a good, sexy whoopin’!

With the arrival of spring, once can’t help but feel revitalized and just downright excited! I think my spring fever started a tad early thanks to the sun and my re-discovery of a glass dildo while manically spring cleaning my apartment. When one has a busy schedule and dozens of sex toys, it’s easy to let some fall through the cracks and be temporarily forgotten—especially easy when said toy is buried under a pile of bulky winter sweaters until the spring thaw and the storing of the winter clothes!

The glass gem I am speaking of is the Icicles Twister which was one of my first glass sex toys. It got me to thinking all over again about my fascination with glass toys and I thought I should share with you the joys of glass toys!

Along with being just about pretty enough to display on one’s coffee table or mantle; glass toys offer a sensation like no other. Never mind the sheer luxuriousness of sliding such a beautiful work of art into your most delicious parts, but toys made of this heavy duty glass are far more versatile than most even realize! Glass dildos are durable enough to withstand heat and cold which means that you can soak it in warm water before use to heat it up, or if you’re so bold; run it under cool water for a thrill like no other! These toys also quickly heat up to one’s body temperature so play time always feels just right.

The selection of glass sex toys will astound you and just for the record; they don’t all feel the same! The styles range between big and small and butter-smooth to coiled and nubby! We also have glass toys specifically designed for anal sex like the Little Red Ripple Butt Plug which offers a feeling of dense fullness like no other as well as the Seymore Butts Glass For Your Ass which can rock anyone’s backdoor just right thanks to it’s pleasure-enhancing ridges. If it’s vaginal play you’re looking for, my favorites are the Rainbow Magical Wands 9 and the Strap-On Smooth XL—pretty and impressive! Finally, if you’re looking for one to give that special gal as a gift, you can’t go wrong with the Glass G-Spot Red thanks to its ability to seek and stimulate the G-Spot AND the cute little heart shaped end! Nothin’ says ‘I Love You’ quite like a mind-blowing orgasm and a pretty gift!

It’s funny how some men perceive sex toys. With so many guys complaining that their partners aren’t adventurous or sexual enough it baffles me that there are still some out there who don’t fancy the idea of bringing sex toys into the relationship or are even downright opposed to the idea of a sex toy! Men need to see the potential fun involved for them when it comes to sex toys and realize that women do not see them as a replacement for the real thing—yes, even those vibrators that look just like the real thing!!

I think the best way to turn a guy on to sex toys is to actually show him what they can do and how hot they can be. You can always try by surprising him with one of his own like a vibrating cock ring or a masturbator. Many men seem put off by anything phallus shaped and don’t realize all of the options available for men that are not big vibrating dicks! Anal beads are another super sexy toy that he may get a kick out of since they can be used on either you or him during a steamy bed session and let’s face it—they look fairly non-threatening!

It’s a known fact that men are visual creatures, especially when it comes to sex which is why showing him will likely be the best route for you to take in your mission to get him to accept and welcome your vibrator into the bedroom. Check your inhibition at the door and get ready to unleash the exhibitionist in you by putting on a little show! Consider it a far sexier version of “show and tell” than what you used to play as a kid! Get undressed, lie back on the bed and invite him to watch you pleasure yourself using your favorite vibrator. Start off slow by tracing the buzzing toy along your body, teasing yourself and him. Gage his reaction and don’t jump in for the kill until he’s good any ready. If he still doesn’t seem entirely open to the idea or has expressed a concern about feeling as though a vibrator is a replacement for him (this is what I like to refer to as ‘true penis envy’!), you may want to hold off on actual penetration. Enjoy the feeling of the vibe as it teases you and the feeling of his eyes on you watching this incredibly intimate and highly erotic moment. Bring yourself to orgasm and don’t hold back because watching you writhing around in ecstasy will be a huge turn on for him. Try to keep eye contact with him throughout the entire ‘show’ so that he feels connected to you during the experience and not at all left out. And by all means; ask him to take over if you think he can handle it! This should prove to be quite the turn on for him and hopefully the start of a very beautiful friendship between him and your favorite vibe!

Though I am a lover of all things sexy; I will be the first to admit that some sex toys just look downright ridiculous upon first glance and some of the names are over-the-top enough to make anyone roll their eyes. For some; a sweet little bunny face, a dolphin or a beaver do absolutely nothing in terms of arousal and may even illicit a chuckle or two, but, don’t let the appearance of some of these toys fool you and do take the time to figure out what purpose they serve because chances are that you will be very pleasantly surprised by what these odd looking items will do in terms of vamping up your sex life and getting you off!

I’m going to share with you some of the strangest yet most amazing creations in adult toys that I have come across so that you can save yourself some time and heat things up with some of the greatest toys around… once you stop laughing of course.

The first one is the SnugglePuss—the name does it to me every time! This toy not only has a name that can’t help but give you a giggle but it’s also shaped much like a lobster claw and isn’t particularly sexy in appearance, but let me tell you that in terms of function; this toy is the bomb! When inserted properly, this bendy and nubby toy rubs your G-spot just right!

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Valentines Day is coming which means that it’s time to start thinking of ways to celebrate your love and lust… or either or! Valentines Day is the one day of the year where nooky is pretty much guaranteed, so why not take the time to make it as memorable as possible—so memorable that in fact that you’ll be thanked for it for days and days after the 14^th is long gone. *wink*

Thinking a little outside the box is all it takes to make it an extra special day because after all; there is more to Valentines Day than just roses and chocolate! Sexing up the day will be appreciated whether after a romantic dinner or as a start to a long and luscious day of nothing but slippery sex, and since we get that thinking outside the box doesn’t come naturally to everyone; for you especially, there are products to help you score… brownie points with your mate on this special day!

I suppose we should cover the more romantic options first since romance is on everyone’s mind when it comes to this day, but don’t worry my fellow I-heart-non romantic-sex friends; I will get to some great options for us as well!

Bed of Roses: It’s no big surprise that rose-pedals strewn allover a bed are the ultimate in setting the scene for a very romantic night of passion, but have you ever tried real rose pedals on a bed? They stain the sheets!! So opting instead for “Bed Of Roses” will get you all of the same oohs and ahhs without the ruined sheets. This kit comes with 100 scented silk rose pedals, a tea light and an invitation card for your mate! And a bonus: it’s on sale!
Earthly Delights Gift Tin: Nothing says romance like taking the time to pamper your loved one which is why this set is the best. Kama Sutras products are like no others in terms of quality and this set gives you all that you need for a sexy and slippery day or night of sensual fun with the power of aromatherapy on your side! The Oil of Love warms your skin, the almond oil and massage cream tickle your senses and are the only layer that should be between the skin of you and your lover, while the honeysuckle body dust sweetens the deal and your skin! Sensuality at its best.

Honeymoon For Lovers Kit: What better day to relive a honeymoon than Valentines Day?? This kit covers romance and sex at its most delicious with strawberry flavored massage oil, a 5 inch vibrator, a good ol’ fashioned wooden massager, some almond massage oil and Raspberry Sunshine Love Suds for some bath play as well as some feathers to further tickle the senses… and then some!

Erotic Love Notes: These 69 heart-shaped notes allow you to surprise your lover with all kinds of sexy suggestions! Slip one in his briefcase for a mid-day treat or leave one under her pillow for a wake up she’ll never forget! Great not only for Valentines Day but for any other day as well.

Now some suggestions for those of you who are looking to forgo romance in exchange for some down and dirty erotic fun on the day of lovers:

Body Swing: It doesn’t get hotter than this my sexy friends! The body swing is unlike all of the others because rather than suspending from the ceiling; it hangs from the body and offers a whole new slant to your sex—literally!

Kinky Bingo: This game allows you to turn Valentines Day into a naughty adventure for two or more! Invite your friends over and make things hot with a sexy spin on this classic game complete with 250 kinky bingo chips, 60 sexy calling cards and 12 kinky bingo cards!

Love Pillow: This inflatable pillow is designed to maximize your pleasure with its ideal shape and size and increase your position repertoire with its book of “Love Positions”! An inexpensive addition to your night of naughty fun!

Sex Card Game: How easy this makes it for you to plan out 100 possible sex fantasies together that you can then enjoy acting out till your heart’s content! A very inexpensive way to explore your most intimate fantasies! This set comes with 50 explicit sex cards, 3 Rule Cards and 1 Unleash Your Fantasy Sex Card… endless possibilities for just over $5!

There are an endless number of items on sale that you can add to your bag of sexy tricks this Valentines Day to make it one that your lover (or lovers!) will never forget

I was reminded of a potentially embarrassing moment recently where I blurted out something less-than-appropriate at a baby shower. Leave it to me to be at a wholesome function and squeal in delight at the site of a rubber duckie because I quickly assume that it is actually an 'I Rub My Duckie' Vibrator! Luckily, I managed to save face before too many of the guests even caught the word “vibrator” shooting from my lips. I realized then how great the new breed of discreet sex toys really are since in a room full of ladies, I was the only one whose mind even went there which I suppose makes sense as I was likely the only sex writer in attendance. I have since started my own collection of duckie vibes and can't tell you how great it is to not have to hide them before company arrives!
It's no secret that sex toys are far more “acceptable” than they were years back. More women and couples are enjoying sex toys than ever—whether they're willing to admit it or not, so for the squeamish or shy; discreet vibrators are a Godsend! Not only can you leave them at your bedside even when the in-laws are staying over, but you can also carry them with you for use just about anywhere because they look like everyday items. Now who would question you slipping a “lipstick” deep into your pocket in the middle of dinner or a movie? And pulling out a mini "flashlight" in the car—maybe you've lost something down on the floor between your legs that requires some “light” to find! And sliding his “cell phone” back into his front pocket while his hands are busy eating or driving—nothin' odd bout' that! The possibilities of pleasure are endless regardless of where you are!

If you're looking for some discreet vibes or sex toys incognito, these are some of the gems available here at Discreet Romance:

'Vibra Phone' which looks just like a cell phone

Lipstick Vibrator

'It's A Life Saver' Novelty Vibrator (just as the name states!)

Make Up Brush

'Flashlight Key Chain' – not only is it conveniently on a key chain but it's also waterproof!

'I Rub My Duckie' has a style for everyone: Paris Duckie, Travel Duckie, Bondage, Little Red Devil

'Mini Lady Bug' is so cute that it looks like a kid's toy!

Is anal sex makin’ a comeback or somethin’?? It just seems that every time I pop by my favorite porn sites all I’m seeing is anal sex! As well as having it in my face on these sites, I recently noticed an influx of friends who are admitting their backdoor experiences or fascination—I’m talking anal sex, a love of a finger or two in the area and even prostate milking their mates and some tucas-lingus or “tongue-around-the-anus”!

Tis’ the season to not only be jolly but to spread that joy as well. What better way to do that then by putting a smile on the faces of your naughtiest loved ones with some Yule-time cheer? Not sure where I’m going with this? I’m talking about two of everyone’s favorite things: parties and sex. Why not make your holiday soiree a sexy one by throwing in a few naughty touches like sexy centerpieces, not-so-goody bags and more!

Many of us have little traditions amongst our closest group of friends when it comes to this time of year whether it be a shopping date followed by dinner or maybe a cookie exchange party. Consider adding a few sex toys for some added zing which will also up the fun factor, give everyone a good ol’ belly laugh and turn the usual conversation up a notch—or ten!

We carry an awful lot of sex toys that easily double as party items if you think outside the box. Here are a few of my favorite ideas:

Blissful Berries are not just very pretty little vibrators, but they also double as great cocktail mixers! Think I’m kidding?? Get a few of these vibes in all of the delicious colors and place one in each martini glass and watch them vibrate that martini like nobody’s business! They come in 3 very girl-friendly colors and are just the right amount of bling for a holiday party with their nubby, waterproof heads! And almost as great as the expressions on your friend’s faces is the price—so reasonable that you can easily afford enough for all of your guests.

Note: Micro Mini’s are another great choice if you’re looking for the sexiest vibes that also double nicely as cocktail mixers!

Still in keeping with neat ways to use mini vibrators; I like to add a little spice twist to my Christmas packages by strategically incorporating them into the presentation of each package. It’s so simple! Take a small toy like the Classix Mini Vibe and tie it into your bow which sits atop the gift. I also like using cock rings in the same manner—especially great for your male friends or those who are coupled up!

Dress up any table with a nice arrangement of fruit—sexy fruit that is! Mini Bath Buddies are fruit shaped waterproof vibes that come in orange, pear and strawberry. Place several of each in a bowl on their own or mixed with Christmas balls for a beautiful display that will have everyone craving this healthy snack! *wink*

My final but fun suggestion is using sex toys as ornaments for your tree. Imagine the wonderment on your pals faces when they stand to admire your tree and find some sex toy goodies hanging with ribbon! The I Vibe Pocket Rocket comes in all kinds of hot colors which will brighten any Christmas tree. And these babies provide a buzz like no other! Add a tag to each ribbon with a friends name on it and you will surely be known as the hostess with the mostess!

When it comes to parties you are only limited by your imagination. Open your mind, think outside the box…ahem… and think of all the neat ways that you can vamp up any party.

Happy Holidays!

By Adrie Santos