Masturbation Techniques
April 02, 2005 02:59 am
- Masturbation
- Techniques of Masturbation
- Techniques of Masturbation with Another
- Related Masturbation Tecniques
- Masterbation Toys
MASTURBATION
Masturbation about ways of sexual pleasuring with yourself and with others, that use the hands and penis. This is masturbation (jacking off), always popular, and surprisingly varied in the world of nature and humanity. Captive apes and monkeys, as well as other animals, have been seen fondling their penis with hand or foot (or even taken into the mouth). In one study, young male chimpanzees were noticed handling each other's penis. Other limbs can be used to, such as with free-living spider monkeys and baboons, who use their tails. And elephants sometimes employ their trunks. A curious scientist watches a porcupine: His excitement was evidenced by...holding a long stick in his fore paws and straddling it as a child does a broom-stick. The stick was held so that his genitals were stimulated by the contact, and the wood soon accumulated odor from the urine and glandular secretions absorbed. In consequence, it was a natural source of sexual stimulation. Dolphins can be seen rubbing their erect penis against the tank floor, and one individual had the habit of holding his in the jet of the water intake. In addition, larger males will attempt masturbation against the flanks of smaller ones. Perhaps the most unusual way of masturbating is found among red deer: This act is accomplished by lowering the head and gently drawing the tips (of the antlers) to and fro through the herbage. Erection and extrusion of the penis from the sheath follows in five to seven seconds...Ejaculation follows about five seconds after. Masturbation has always been common among humans. In some ancient western cultures, it was connected with religious worship. For example, in Egyptian mythology the god Orisis "creates all living creatures by an infinite act of masturbation." This was also seen as the source of the Nile river, and the cause of its annual flooding, which was the backbone of life in Egypt. The ritual developed of pharaohs masturbating before the god's image a the time of their enthronement. This led to public masturbation during religious worship, "to expel evil and honor the gods of generation," and became a part of an ancient Egyptian, and also Phoenician, Babylonian and Assyrian, sacred ceremonies. Masturbation was also don for its own sake, without any sacred meanings; the Bible gives us several instances of this )the "spilling of seed"). The Greeks and Romans thought masturbation was invented by the god Hermes (Mercury in Latin). The Greeks called it thrypsis, "the rubbing," and in Latin it was masturatus. People doubtless masturbated together at times, as well as doing it by themselves, in these ancient cultures, even though we have no records of this. The ancients were generally very relaxed about male sexual expression. However jacking-off was later frowned upon thoroughly by the Christian Church. In the middle and far east, attitudes toward jacking-off have not changed from ancient times. In most eastern cultured, Arabian, Indian, Chinese, and Japanese, masturbation was allowed at an early age, and at times even encouraged. For example, Ibn Kemal Pasha, in On the Lengthening and Thickening of the Rod quotes old Arabian doctors in saying that "rubbing and constant handling both make the virile member longer and thicker." Masturbation was sometimes used on babies to quiet their crying and Bernard Stern noted that in Arabia it (jacking-off) "has become almost the custom of the land." Two scholars noted that Muslim and Jewish boys who actively and exclusively engaged in solitary and/or mutual masturbation, did so on the average of three to five times per week during the ages of eleven and eighteen. In Arabian slang the act was known as jeng, jelq, jerk, and musht- zeni, jerking, flipping, juggling and fist-beating respectively, referring to the different techniques. In Turkey it was called istimney-bilyet ("the practice of self-control of the stalk"), while in Persia it was called maulish-e-zubb ("shampooing the cord"). Masturbation was especially popular in public baths, where you and/or a friend, or a masseur and/or a prostitute, could engage you in the practice, "Mutual or one-sided, as desired." Some ribald poetry survives, such as two lines from "The Fabulous Feats of the Futtering Freebooters:" "Felah and Negro did jerk off his yard/For all of a week; hashish kept it up hard." And from the Persian poet Abu Nuwas: . Are not this child's eyes all fire? . O Desire, . Feel the flush of the eggs . Between his legs! . Dearest, seize what you can seize, . If you please; . Fill your boyish fist with me . And then see . Will it go a little way, . Just in play? In India, masturbation has a long history, going back to ancient Hindu mythology, In one story, Lord Shiva was "masturbated by Agnee the Fire-lord who, bearing his precious semen across the Ganges, accidentally dropped it and witnessed the miraculous birth of Kartikeh (or Koomareh) the misogynist war-god." Krishna, as god of Self-Contemplation, became the symbol of jacking-off and "the favorite Hindoo youth. His practice, hautrus (manual orgasm)...was deified as ritualistic." It was also called panimathana ("hand churning") and "was relished extensively." In China, Dr. Jacobus reports, young men would get together to smoke opium, and then "abuse their generative organs for hours at a time in a frenzy of mutual masturbation and anal copulation." Along the same lines, one report explains that the Cossacks, who lived on the middle Asian plains were more excited by self and mutual masturbation than in sex with women, "having from infancy identified sexual pleasure with masturbation alone." Among other cultures, masturbation was often allowed or encouraged. Of special of interest are cultures allowing the act to be shared between males. These include the Hopi in Arizona, Wogeno in Oceania, and Dahomeans and Namu of Africa. In certain Melanesian communities this was expected between boys, and between boys and married men, although no other king of gay male sex was allowed. In the Cubeo tribe of the Amazon mutual masturbation was "semi- Public." Among the Tikopia of the South Pacific, men masturbated themselves as other men watched.
TECHNIQUES OF MASTURBATION BY YOURSELF
Masturbation is a joy. I am thoroughly convinced that God gave people hands with fingers so that we could stroke ourselves in pleasure and comfort. Those men who've not discovered the satisfaction of jacking off, are definitely missing something. There is only one problem I can think of in masturbating, that someone would thing it was a bad thing to do, would feel guilty during and after, or worse yet wouldn't do it altogether. The suppression of pleasurable masturbation is one of the great ills of our society, for masturbation is one of the basic functions of existence; those who deny or ignore it do so at the risk of increasing their own sense of frustration and grimness in the world. Jacking off, besides feeling good serves many useful purposes. It can be relaxing, reassuring, energizing, encouraging, spontaneous and charming. You can do it quick, slow, with hands, pillows, melons and showers, in a bathroom, behind a bush or on the bus, dry or with oils, while listening to music, looking at pictures, or imagining. It is an anywhere, anytime convenience. And don't be afraid to indulge. When your body's had enough, it'll say so. One main trouble in masturbating is to not be embarrassed. You could get caught! The best ways to overcome this inconvenience are to make sure you'll have privacy, learn to do it quick, and/or learn to do it in public without being found out. All of these are quite possible. I remember once I was at a picnic, and I was standing in a crowd. It was so hot that many people had taken off their shoes and shirts. Then I saw across from me such a beautiful boy that I almost had to leave, I got so excited. Luckily, I was wearing my old baggy navy pants, and the pockets were worn through. I slung my coat over my right shoulder to hide my arm, and plunged my hand down my pocket, walking into the crowd as close as I could get. I had a great time, and I'm sure that not one of the hundreds of people around me guessed a thing about it! (Note: for tricks of this sort, wear tight-fitting underpants to catch the come, or learn to hold your ejaculation inside when you come, so you don't make a sticky mess.) Mechanically speaking, masturbation for males is friction against the fraenum, or "whang-string," a small, string-like portion of the penis just under the glans or "head" at the backside. The fraenum has the highest concentration of sexsensual nerve endings in the body. Many actions can stimulate this area; an object can rub against the penis, the penis can move against something, or no motion can happen at all. This last might easily happen, since fantasy and mind stimulation play such a big role; wet dreams are a good example of this. I have a friend who sometimes comes to orgasm while meditating, after his yoga practice. Although I'll restrict myself here to "jacking-off", using the hand, be aware that with a little imagination and creativity other ways can be found. There are many things you can discover about yourself with your hands. The hands are very sensitive to touch, and the penis is even more so. Every person develops their own way of jacking off. If you've ever had others do it to you, you discover that usually they can't make the feelings quite as good as you can yourself. That's because they're probably using their style on you, which fits for them but isn't yours. Style involves such things as how the fingers hold the penis which fingers are used, how tight they are, how hard they press, how much movement, use of the foreskin and how much sensitivity towards drawing out the feelings. All these are important. Some people like to wrap the whole hand around their penis and slide it all the way up and down in long, luxurious strokes, using oils or a flexible foreskin, Others like to place the thumb and two fingers around the corona (that part of the penis just below the glans), with one finger over the fraenum, and pump in short, quick movements with the skin. There is room for exploration and creativity in masturbation. Fantasy plays a big part, and in your mind you can be loving someone else or yourself. You can imagine your last sexual act, or an erotic fantasy, or looking at pictures or a story. Fantasies are especially intriguing; they are the images and events of your inner and secret wishes. Even if they seem strange or something you wouldn't want anyone to find out about that's OK who's going to know if you don't tell? Loving yourself through masturbation means caressing your own body, holding it, making love to you, appreciating you/your experience as hand and penis, body and mind. it's unique.
A MASTURBATION FANTASY
Let me take you on a fantasy; You'll need privacy and quiet, some enjoyable music (something warm and not too loud), candles and oil (olive oil, safflower oil, massage or love oil, baby/mineral oil, Vaseline, KY or any clean lubricating substance are all good). It's night time outside. First, light clothes and, lying down on the bed, close your eyes. Take a deep, relaxing breath. Imagine that you are a stranger meeting your body, that it's new to you, that you're touching it for the first time. Start at the top of your head, and explore yourself with your hands, as sensations you've never felt before. Feel your hair, the shape of your head, then your face, your ears. Glide your fingers over each part, trying to feel the shape, the texture, as if you'd never felt them before. Notice the softness of you eyelids, the sensitivity of your lips. Then caress your throat, your shoulders and chest. Find a nipple, and flick a fingertip over and around it, feeling it grow hard and excited. Glide your palms over your stomach, pressing down on your soft middle. Trace designs around your nave. Slowly let your hands press lower. Discover how your pubic hair begins; how does it feel: Seek out the lines where you legs join your stomach. Trace the line with your fingertip down onto the groove between leg and crotch, until you brush your testicles. Press your soft warm hands onto the insides of your thighs. Stroke your thighs, feeling their sensitivity, their shape, their thickness. Brush the hair lightly. Then discover ho your ass ends underneath. then glide up under your testicles, tracing a ring around them. Hold them warmly in your hand, feeling each, then press them gently against your body. Now discover the shape of your penis with one fingertip. Trace a line around the base, then up the side to the top. Lightly brush the side, the fraenum, the glans and tip. Wrap one hand carefully around the whole penis, and squeeze gently. Pull on it a little, then let it go. Find the fraenum with your fingertip, and press there (You may have to pull down your foreskin). Discover the most sensitive point, and brush your fingertip rapidly just over that point. Press you finger there again and massage the point gently and firmly. Then wrap your hand around your penis and move it up and down. Now put some oil in the cup of your hand, and caress your penis all over, rubbing and massaging the oil evenly. Cradle your testicles in one hand, and wrap the other around your penis. Slide you hand up and down all the way, feeling the sensations. Explore until you develop a pleasing rhythm, and sink into the warmth and pleasure. Go deeper and warmer, letting the feelings grow stronger and spread. If you want to increase sensation to stretch your foreskin, hold down the base of you penis with thumb and forefinger of the other hand, pulling the skin tight. Keep stroking yourself, pausing if you like to explore somewhere else. Your sensations will become stronger in a growing cycle of tension and relaxation. Discover your pattern and try to draw it out. Explore the way(s) to climax, fast or slow, with long or short strokes, pumping fast and rough, or gentle and calming until your heat rises pouring out of you. Let yourself go, flow into it. Them relax. Relax deeply, doing nothing, emptying your mind and body. Peacefulness. This fantasy can be done just as well in the tub or shower, using soap instead of oil. An interesting variation is to do it in front of a mirror. You can watch yourself, you hands and body, in new ways. An exciting addition to masturbation can be using a finger to caress your ass (called postillioning). While masturbating, simply grease a finger (don't use soap) and press it at your anus- opening, pushing firmly and gently to slide inside. You'll have to discover how best to place your body to that reaching is easy; I suggest bending your knees and bringing your feet to your rear, while lying on your back, of even stretching your feet over your head. You can also do this standing up. Masturbation is an act of wholeness, of self creation and renewal, whether it's a five-minute quickie or a half-hour journey. You can become more you, more together and centered through deep and satisfying masturbation. The moment of climax is a moment of infinity, and under your control. Also, be aware of the limitations of masturbation, the things it can't get you, like another person's touching and love. Admitting your needs is the first step to satisfying them. Surprisingly enough, masturbation, body image, and other kinds of sex are all related. If you like and enjoy your body, it will show in your masturbation. Poor opinion of your body is a good thing to recognize and deal with. Just be aware; tune in on yourself; let yourself be and then do what needs to be done. Once you sense a problem here, it's good to talk it over with a friend or counselor. A sense of relaxation and intimacy with your body is akin to being intimate with another, and he with you. If you don't want to be sensual with your own crotch, how can you keep this from carrying over? Be aware of yourself as the source of all your experiences, ideas and feelings. Also, masturbation is a favorite shared experience. Whether you're jacking yourself off while he watches, or you him, or using masturbation during fellatio (sucking) or anal intercourse (fucking), it's a basic experience and action. Throughout this book, masturbation will be mentioned again and again as a pleasurable activity with other actions or by itself. It serves as a good foundation for any kind of sexual and/or intimate sharing, with others and with yourself. It's good to respect jacking-off and be relaxed about it. Many people find it their favorite sexual activity, either alone or with others, but don't want to admit the fact for being thought unsophisticated or immature. That's nonsense-no one is immature for liking to jack off, or to prefer it over fucking. Masturbation is entirely pleasurable and wholesome. Only boredom, unhappiness, hard work and on are dull things in bed. If you like to jack off by yourself enjoy it. If you like to masturbate with your friend(s), good for you. Make sure you let him know this, and take into account his desires too. I remember once when I was with someone I thought "sophisticated," and i thought I should be sucking and fucking, because it was the "sophisticated" thing to do. But surprise of surprises when he blurted out to me he really wanted to masturbate himself while I cuddled his balls; he was even embarrassed about it! So I gave him a big hug, and we wound up having a fine time together. He was a beautiful man.
MASTURBATION TECHNIQUES WITH ANOTHER
One of the most intimate an joyful experiences to share is mutual masturbation. Lying with a friend, allowing yourself to be caressed and stroked, he trusting you. openly, your hand holding his testicles-you both masturbating yourself with his hand on your thigh-there's a lot of meaning and experience here! This is more than just a way to release sexual tension; it's being and sharing, and maybe growing as well. All these are open for you to explore, of you feel calm with him, save about yourself and your desires. If you feel rushed, slow down and see what happens. It is possible to really savor the feel of his penis in your hand, it's touch and thickness, firmness and warmth. Remember the masturbation fantasy in the first section? Well, it's just as much fun to give it to someone else, as to do it yourself. And you may learn quite a bit, by seeing how another is similar and different to you. In the shape and feel of his body, in the way he's aroused and climaxes, in his sexual style. Earlier on I spoke of people developing their individual way of masturbating. You'll be surprised how much variety there is. Talk with him, and find out how he likes you hand, if he'd rather you held him differently, and so on. There's much to share, if you want to open up. Mutual masturbation can be close and wet, hot and fast, or it can be much different, slow and relaxed for example. it's all a matter of opening up to how you are at that moment, what you want and need, Maybe you're scared, and just want to be held. Or perhaps you're tired and would like him to jack you off casually. Or maybe you really want to abandon yourself in love-making. If you are uptight about masturbating, jacking-off while he watches can be great therapy. Many of us tend to feel guilty about masturbation, from having to hide it when we were younger. With him, you can be open, and lose your fear to the light. And many of us are also guilty about receiving pleasure- we feel we always have to reciprocate, to give it back immediately. Try just lying back sometimes and not doing a thing, and let him do everything; just relax, just receive. There are lots of other things you can do with masturbation. You can massage his body all over. Each of you can masturbate himself while you hold the other's testicles -some friends told me the had highly spiritual/loving experiences during this. Also it can be a lot of fun not taking your clothes off, as if you'd just met and grabbed each other on the street, or with your underpants still on (jockey shorts really turn me on). Another treat can be taking a shower together, standing under the spigot masturbating each other with plenty of soap. If you both like, you can massage his ass at the same time. Since body tension can affect intensity of climax, you can try different positions while being masturbated; sitting up, crouching over him, or hanging from the ceiling for example. You can fondle each other without climaxing. or without even getting hard. this can be specially delightful and warm, as the caring/trust/sharing comes more to the fore. You can even have a lot of fun in public, seeing if you can fondle each other on the bus or in a restaurant without anyone knowing. There's almost always a free hand available, and it doesn't take much energy. At times your arm might get a little tired; if this happens, relax for a while. Masturbating someone else is different than with yourself, because you aren't directly experiencing; you must relay on him to let you know how it's going, and this may not be clear. With yourself, it's simple to know when to speed up and when to slow down to stop. Discovering how to do this with someone else can be a fun exploration. Ask him how he's doing. I've had times where the person wasn't holding me right-his thumb wasn't quite in the right place, and when I came it wasn't quite as good. It's OK not to be the perfect sex partner, or have the perfect time. But don't be afraid to complain, too. If you're jerking him off, stop when you like, except if he's just before climax (coming). If you stop too close to ejaculation, the process will continue anyway but the experience might be second-rate. Other than this, I'd be pretty loose about it and see what happens. Try experimenting with different strokes and hand grips with and without oil. Cradling his balls in the other hand and kissing him, all at the same time, can be especially nice. Learning to communicate sensations, wants, and needs is always an important part of being with someone. It comes with experience and relaxation. Remember that he can't read your mind, be directly aware of your experiences, nor you with him. There is the space between you to cross over. How you do it is up to you: words, questions, grunts, moaning; don't just assume he knows what's going on, or that you should know how he's doing without his telling you-some people are rather quiet and might not say anything. When in doubt, you can always ask and better to ask then be fearful of relaxing your arm for moment. Some question may come up about simultaneous orgasms, coming at the same time. "Should we or shouldn't we?" My opinion is, it's nice if it happens and nice if it doesn't. It's not always easy to know when someone's going to climax, and it can be harder still to coordinate two climaxes. Why let work take away from pleasure? It's good to experiment with this and see what's most satisfactory; for some couples it's easier than for others. The best thing is usually to be loose about it, preferring spontaneity over planning, and feeling over thinking. But by all means, if you indulge in pleasure it's hard not to have a good time.
RELATED MASTURBATION TECHNIQUES
I would like to mention some related ways to get off. These are body rubbing, interfemoral intercourse, armpit/knee intercourse, and moving on the perineum. Body rubbing (also known as the "Princeton rub") is a common activity, and some people find it their favorite. It's a kind of masturbation with another, except no hands are used. You are lying together, moving with and on each other, usually side by side or above/below. This usually done "dry," that is without lubrication, but oiling large parts of your bodies and then slipping'n sliding can also be lots of fun (and messy). Not everyone likes this kind of sex; some people find their penis just gets chafed and numb from body hair and skin. If you get into it, one or both of you can move at a time, up and down, wriggling about and/or thrusting with the pelvis (tipping the pelvis up and back to move the penis). A related activity is called interfemoral intercourse, "the Oxford style." Here one of you lies on your back, with your thighs held tight together. Then your friend lies on top of you, and either dry or greasing his penis and the insides of your thighs, inserts his penis between your legs just below your crotch. He then thrusts his penis in and out. To some people this may seem like a strange activity, but to others (and in some cultures) it's quite common. Interfemoral intercourse can also be done from behind, with one of you lying on your stomach. This leads us to another related method, which is thrusting between your friend's buttocks, without entering his anus. A lubricant can also be used here. Again, some people enjoy this way, and it has had it's place in other cultures (the ancient Greeks, for example, called it pygisma, "buttockry"). Armpit/Knee Intercourse: If you make a tight, firm place by holding your arm at your side or your knee bent, he can insert his penis (lubricated if necessary) at the joint and slide in an out by moving his body. He can even climax this say. Another way is moving on the perineum, the space between the testicles and anus, where the legs meet. This is a very tender area, and when lubricated feels nice to the penis. One of you lied on your back, bringing your knees to your chest. The other, then lies down between his friend's legs facing him, with his penis resting at the perineum. Body motions and thrusting will create pleasurable sensations, and kissing is quite easy.
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