Based on all these reviews I'm thinking I got a defective version or something! I originally bought it because I have trouble getting aroused, and as much experience out of sex as I should. All it did for me was make everything very cold. I used it on my clit initially, when I was already horny, rubbing and waiting for a reaction. All I noticed was a slight numbness in the outer lips from the cold, and a freezing less-sensitive clit. I wanted something to warm and enhance the blood flow. Maybe I just have bad luck. Price isn't so bad, I still plan on testing mine out more, with the lover too. I used it with toys...maybe that was it?